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What’s Your Problem?
One thing that become very clear to me all of a sudden this morning is that I no longer feel obligated to help people who don’t deserve my help.
This is an important step for me, as in the past I have, out of a misplaced sense of obligation, dropped my work and customers to sort out stuff that was simply not my problem. I didn’t get thanked for it, I didn’t get acknowledged for it. I just got mucked around and now asked to do it again by the same people.
One thing I have quickly learned since being alone in this business is how valuable my time is. In the past, I have allowed people to take advantage of my time and this led to me de-valuing my own importance.
The reason I am writing this, is because it shocked me this morning that after a couple of months of not having that expectation, I have come to give myself more credit and now find it insulting and rude that people think they can ask this of me.
Confidence is cool.
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May 7th, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Those same people, too, Nat, should realize that there are consequences to their actions. Their not thanking you and giving credit where it’s due now has this consequence: they can no longer take advantage of you. For too long people like us have indulged people like them, living in their culture of entitlement (one, I might add, that is no longer relevant in today’s society). Sadly, it will take a while before they learn their lesson. It would be different for people who did at least give you some courtesy.
May 8th, 2008 at 12:47 am
Well put, Jack.
And they’re one person closer to learning that lesson, one hopes.
May 8th, 2008 at 12:56 am
I agree Natalie - working with nice people is the only way to go.
May 8th, 2008 at 11:05 am
I also agree and have experienced a similar feeling this morning when I asked a simple (possibly dumb) question in class and was told “trust you” and “aww shut up” and then a matter of ten minutes later one of those people asked me for help. Well, how would I know if I didn’t ask previously? They can be the ones to ask the stupid questions next time.
May 8th, 2008 at 11:13 am
Cheapest customers are always the most demanding, thats why you should never market to them, unless you have an automatic robot in your garage that can sort their problems. It has to be pretty advanced though! more than you!
May 8th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
Sorry to all my customers. I love you all. This was not in relation to you (and I know some of you think you overwork me and are probably in a panic right now :))
I deliberately didn’t say customers. I was more talking about what Verity experienced. People outside of your work who DEMAND you do stuff for them or expect you to, when you know it’s totally unreasonable.